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18 Things A Grown Man Should Never Have

Of course we fight our own demons and this list is designed for nothing less than perfection. I can admit I never ever ever ever slept on a futon, yet I still carry less than $20 in my wallet and I snag by beer bottle opener on the inside of pants pocket when pulling out my car keys in the supermarket parking lot. I have never named by “you know what” either…

Learn your weakness…

18 Things A Grown Man Should Never Have

1. A black eye.

2. A witty e-mail signature.

3. An empty refrigerator.

4. PlayStation thumb.

5. A key chain with a bottle opener.

Read the entire thing >

-sillydad

Posted on 19th May 2008 by sillydad
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Long Time No See

With so much happening lately I gave up writing daily on sillydad.com - I know some of you who are family or friends wished I continued this blog so that you could check in often to see what’s been going on and see some pictures.

So with the many requests I will keep this blog going and update it as often as I can. It could be a couple times per week but I will fill you in with what’s happening.

Currently in a nutshell:

* My oldest daughter turns 8 years old today
* Meghan is walking and climbing stairs
* Dad is back to 30 pounds over weight…
* Sam is now taller than Elizabeth
* Isobel can now put on her shoes or boots on the correct feet almost 100% of the time
* Emma loves the movie Flushed Away

Will keep you posted!

-sillydad

Posted on 18th March 2008 by sillydad
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For Those Who Want Photos

OK I have been told I don’t post enough pictures. There are friends and family who are half away across the continent so they would like more updates. So the following is a little bit about the last couple weeks and some of the things we have done.

So Aaron this is for you. ;)

A couple weeks ago my dad came up to Bangor to visit with the kids. He had never been out to the boardwalk so we took the 4 older kids up and walked around and I shot a few photos. (Take note: Sammy’s outgrown shirt. :D )

We had a lot of fun walking the boardwalk. We picked blackberries and then came home. The following weekend I traveled with the 3 older kids over to my parent’s camp in Bethel where we spent time camping, sitting around the campfire, and visiting family.

Here are a few pictures I took. Enjoy!

Campfire at night

My parents did some clearing on their land and on one edge you can get a nice view of the mountains. I took these photos around sunset.

The following picture is of the view out towards New Hampshire. It was too cloudy but up behind these mountains you see here is Mt Washington, which you can see clearly on a cloudless day.

And here is Fred, “keeper of the campfire”

sillydad

Posted on 9th August 2007 by sillydad
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Abraham Lincoln - Podcast Presentation

I am playing around with audio podcasts and thought I would put together a presentation based on Abraham Lincoln. Lincoln is my favorite president of all time and thought I would share a little bit about him. It isn’t very polished but have fun with it.

-sillydad

Posted on 29th July 2007 by sillydad
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Wedding Last Weekend

Brother in-law got married this last weekend on the coast of Maine. Here are a few pics… I have been instructed not to post certain pictures to secure the identity of those who have requested it. So I will post pictures of those who don’t give a rats backside.

Groom is buttoning the cuff of younger brother in the wedding party just prior to the ceremony.

Kids right before the ceremony. Flower girls and ring bearer.

Ring bearer.

Flower girls.

Groom way off to the left. Bride and Father of Bride.

Couple scenic shots…

-sillydad

Posted on 26th July 2007 by sillydad
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Problogger’s Son Turns One Today

Darren Rowse from Problogger.net just announced his son’s first birthday today. His son, today’s guest blogger *wink wink*, posts 5 things we should know about his dad.

1 - My dad reads more than he writes
2 - My dad talks all day to other bloggers
3 - My dad only uses a few of the ideas he comes up with
4 - My dad works a lot - but less than he used to
5 - My dad is different, like the wiggles

This is great. Darren makes a living online as a professional blogger and teaches others how to do it. For those stay at home dads out there, Darren is someone that can teach you how to make money online, make 6 figures, and at the same time stay home with your child. A SAHD dream come true.

-sillydad

Posted on 5th July 2007 by sillydad
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Looks Like Dadstock Was a Success

Well looks like Dadstock was a great success.

I was not able to attend but here is a group shot of all those who could make it:

Looks like a few guys there to relax:

Click here to see more photos from the event.

-sillydad

Posted on 2nd July 2007 by sillydad
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Movie: Shooter

Shooter is an excellent movie and one I thoroughly enjoyed. Of course I love action movies, suspense, and nobody messes with Mark Wahlberg. These 3 factors made this movie a great hit for me and I probably will own it. I rented it on Netflix this week and have already seen it 3 times.

Check out the movie trailer:

-sillydad

Posted on 30th June 2007 by sillydad
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Older Siblings Are Smarter?

Modern Day Dad finds an article about a recent study which determines the first borns get all the brains. I have heard this before and never thought it held too much weight even though it did seem that way. My older sister was a whiz kid and graduated 2nd in her high school class, then off to Stanford University. Me, well I didn’t get much for brains but I like to say I got all the looks, or the athletic ability. My sister now is an Attorney at a law firm in Florida.

I scan all the people I know, and it’s funny how the older children always seemed to do better academically.

Well besides just plain observation the study also found:

First-born children possess IQs that are 2.3 points higher, on average, than their younger siblings, a new study contends.

This finding held true even when first-born children didn’t survive and a younger child was reared as the eldest, scuttling the idea that genetics determines the difference in IQ among siblings, according to the Norwegian researchers who authored the report, published in the June 22 issue of the journal Science.

“This study really puts to an end a debate that’s been going on for more than 70 years,” said Frank J. Sulloway, a visiting scholar at the University of California, Berkeley, Institute of Personality and Social Research, and the author of an accompanying commentary in the journal. “The theory of biological differences is pretty much dead as a doornail.”

So whether you think it has to do with genetics think again. There is something that is learned by the first born that pushes them to excel. Could it be they are more independent as they don’t have an older sibling to look after them? Could it be they are the first child to discover things on their own, rather than being shown by an older sibling?

One theory:

“Indirectly, it supports the theory that social support and attention within the family explain the difference. First children will not have to share this attention at first. The more children, the less attention will be provided to each child if parental resources are limited,” he added.

Another:

Sulloway noted that there are several theories that might explain the difference in IQ between first-born and younger siblings. Among these is one that says that more money is spent on the oldest child, and, as family size increases, less money is available for other children, leaving them with less opportunity. “But this doesn’t intuitively strike me as the explanation,” he said.

And:

Another theory holds that the first-born child gets more of the parents’ attention, but Sulloway also discounts this theory.

Another theory shotdown:

Still another explanation is that older children teach younger children, and the act of teaching raises the IQ. “The problem with this theory is that teaching has to raise the IQ of the first-born more than it does the IQ of younger siblings, in order to produce a birth order difference,” he said.

How about niche partitioning? Sulloway seems to like this theory:

A theory that Sulloway likes is called “niche partitioning.” This theory suggests that once a role in the family is filled, others have to find roles that help them compete for attention in the family.

Sulloway noted that first-borns are judged to be more disciplined and more hard-working and more intelligent than their younger siblings. “The explanation for this is that first-borns occupy the role of a surrogate parent in the family,” he said. “It is a great way to get brownie points from parents.”

Because older children already occupy that niche in the family, younger children have to find other roles to play, Sulloway said. “So, younger siblings look for other things to be good at,” he said. “It may be that that extra 2.3 points in IQ reflects an investment of time to get that, and the later-born is investing that time in something else and is getting 2.3 extra points in something else,” he added.

Given that each child is finding his or her own niche, the difference in IQ is nothing for parents to worry about, Sulloway said.

No matter what theory we go with, I wouldn’t necessarily put all of our eggs in one basket. Maybe the combination of all of these factors intertwined into which ones seem to weigh more heavily depending on situational factors will probably determine the overall outcome of a child. But either way, it doesn’t tell us the future of the child, just the predetermined capabilities of them.

sillydad

Posted on 27th June 2007 by sillydad
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June Wedding Anniversary

My wife and I just celebrated our 8 years of marriage. Though I was sick, hacking up phlegm, and sneezing all over the house, we managed to cook up some scallops wrapped in bacon. Makes a nice ordourve.

It was not only us who celebrated a wedding anniversary on the 21st of June. The only man, at the Only Man of the House blog celebrates 10 full years.

Here they were 10 years ago:

Congrats!

-sillydad

Posted on 26th June 2007 by sillydad
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Think Outside the Q-cumber

It’s amazing how children think and formulate their thought patterns. It’s never something that struck me as fascinating until the day my wife and I started having kids. Kids are simple, but are really intuitive. They take complex things and can really simplify them for us. Though things seem chaotic at times, kids can really simplify your life and just make you stop and chuckle.

I have gotten to the point now that if I need a new slogan for my business or a website I am designing I will ask my kids and see what they come up with. It will surprise you. And who do you think would be better at thinking outside the box? Kids are less influenced by society than adults and can think more literally than us big people.

What really was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me and made me realize this fact was a few years ago when my oldest child and I were peeling a cucumber. She loves cucumbers and we ate cucumber after cucumber for a long time. Peel it up, slice it into circles on a large plate, and then sprinkle salt on them.

Well I was in the middle of peeling our cucumber for an afternoon snack when my daughter said, “Dad I don’t want a cucumber.” I was absolutely shocked as she had always loved them and actually were somewhat obsessed with eating them. What I didn’t realize at the time was she was setting me up. She was 4 years old at the time and I came back with, “Well too bad, this is what we are eating.” She persisted, “But Dad, I really don’t want a cucumber.”

I was so stunned by this. So I came back strongly, “Well too bad, you are eating a cucumber whether you like it or not. You have always liked cucumbers. There is no reason to stop liking them now.”

She then got this grin on her face and said, “But Dad (giggle), I don’t want a cucumber, I want a Y-cumber (giggle).”

I busted out laughing. That did it for me and I realized how kids are so simple and can really think outside the box. She was learning her letters and therefore the emphasis all along was on the letters. As an adult you begin to look past all that stuff. You begin to just accept things for what they are.

So if you need original ideas get your kids involved. It may surprise you. So think outside the Q-cumber and think more like a kid.

-sillydad

Posted on 21st June 2007 by sillydad
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DADSTOCK - Sounds Like a Fun Event

Are you interested in going?

Darth Daddy a stay at home dad is hosting a very first DADSTOCK event. It is considered a nationwide event and make sure to let him know if you want to attend. Details so far:

Saturday June 30, 2007
1:00 PM to ??:?? (Since a few will be travelling longer distances you are welcome EARLY or LATE…)
Where - My House… PM me for Address and info.

“Dad’s Beer Party” - Everyone brings some interesting beer (Lets try to avoid bringing the same thing. No Miller Lite/Bud/Old Milwaukee…)

Food - I will Grill up Burgers and have all the fixings. Everyoune bring a Snack/Side

Dads Attending…

1. Darth-Daddy (Host) - Bringing Costco Burgers and Beer from Trader Joe’s
2. Cubfan - Quality Suds and either Guac or Smoked Meat…
3. cjbart - Taco Ring, Guac?
4. mopar-daddy: Chips and Home Made Salsa…
5. woodchuck: Bringing Some Firewood, A bean/beef/chili sort of dish..Possible Berry Dish
6. Trevor57 - Fruit Salad..Yummy yummy..
7. Steve (From a local SAHD meetup board) dvldg1109 New Member on Forum…
8. Jeffus Pony Boy is COMING!!!!!!
9. Indy Driving Up With Sao
10. Sao Carpooling with Indy
11. Wils Dad? Thinking about following Pony Boy…

Post what you want to bring and I will EDIT this post to add that information.

This should be a BLAST!!!

-sillydad

Posted on 20th June 2007 by sillydad
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Flushed Away - The Movie

Kids absolutely loved the movie Flushed Away. We watched it the other day and the kids sat through the whole thing. Great part about it is that I found it entertaining too.

have you seen it?

It’s about a little mouse who lives all alone in a nice fancy home. The owners leave on vacation and he actually gets flushed down the toilet and ends up in the sewer. His mission is to get back home but as you can imagine there are all kinds of adventures, people he meets, good guys, bad guys, and even a love interest…

Fun for the whole family ;)

-sillydad

Posted on 19th June 2007 by sillydad
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Do As I Say, Not As I Do, As I Am a Hypocrite

After reading Aaron’s post at Dadvisor it occurred to me how hypocritical the statement, “Do as I say and not as I do” is. I have heard that a million times but never thought much of it. I even joked around on that phrase for most of my life. But when you become a parent you look at the world in a whole new light.

Most people will read this and wonder what the big deal is but I find that the best parents are ones who lead by example. Also see my article: Actions Speak Louder Than Words. If you want your kids to not drink alcohol then you, yourself, must not drink alcohol. If you want your kids to grow up not using drugs, then you need to not do them yourself. If you want your child to respect their mother then you need to respect your wife. If you want your kids to grow up without swearing then you, as a parent, seriously need to not swear.

You can’t tell your kids to do something, or to NOT do something if you can’t even live up to those standards. And why is it fine for adults to do bad things and make bad decisions and not kids? My point is this… kids need to learn from us by example, and we, as parents, need to start learning from our kids. One way to start is to look at hypocritical statements that were once fun sayings and take them a little more seriously. The future is at stake here.

-sillydad

Posted on 13th June 2007 by sillydad
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Brew Dad Blogs About Beer and Brewing

A dad, a beer drinker, home brewer, and yep, a stay at home dad that I met over at Dad Stays Home has just started his own blog at Brew Dad. He is passionate about good beers and brewing so I am glad he is finally starting this blog.

You can learn a lot from Tony and some interesting facts about beer and brewing. So go visit him at Brew Dad and help get his new blog off the ground.

-sillydad

Posted on 12th June 2007 by sillydad
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