Archive for June, 2007

Movie: Shooter

Saturday, June 30th, 2007

Shooter is an excellent movie and one I thoroughly enjoyed. Of course I love action movies, suspense, and nobody messes with Mark Wahlberg. These 3 factors made this movie a great hit for me and I probably will own it. I rented it on Netflix this week and have already seen it 3 times.

Check out the movie trailer:

-sillydad

Older Siblings Are Smarter?

Wednesday, June 27th, 2007

Modern Day Dad finds an article about a recent study which determines the first borns get all the brains. I have heard this before and never thought it held too much weight even though it did seem that way. My older sister was a whiz kid and graduated 2nd in her high school class, then off to Stanford University. Me, well I didn’t get much for brains but I like to say I got all the looks, or the athletic ability. My sister now is an Attorney at a law firm in Florida.

I scan all the people I know, and it’s funny how the older children always seemed to do better academically.

Well besides just plain observation the study also found:

First-born children possess IQs that are 2.3 points higher, on average, than their younger siblings, a new study contends.

This finding held true even when first-born children didn’t survive and a younger child was reared as the eldest, scuttling the idea that genetics determines the difference in IQ among siblings, according to the Norwegian researchers who authored the report, published in the June 22 issue of the journal Science.

“This study really puts to an end a debate that’s been going on for more than 70 years,” said Frank J. Sulloway, a visiting scholar at the University of California, Berkeley, Institute of Personality and Social Research, and the author of an accompanying commentary in the journal. “The theory of biological differences is pretty much dead as a doornail.”

So whether you think it has to do with genetics think again. There is something that is learned by the first born that pushes them to excel. Could it be they are more independent as they don’t have an older sibling to look after them? Could it be they are the first child to discover things on their own, rather than being shown by an older sibling?

One theory:

“Indirectly, it supports the theory that social support and attention within the family explain the difference. First children will not have to share this attention at first. The more children, the less attention will be provided to each child if parental resources are limited,” he added.

Another:

Sulloway noted that there are several theories that might explain the difference in IQ between first-born and younger siblings. Among these is one that says that more money is spent on the oldest child, and, as family size increases, less money is available for other children, leaving them with less opportunity. “But this doesn’t intuitively strike me as the explanation,” he said.

And:

Another theory holds that the first-born child gets more of the parents’ attention, but Sulloway also discounts this theory.

Another theory shotdown:

Still another explanation is that older children teach younger children, and the act of teaching raises the IQ. “The problem with this theory is that teaching has to raise the IQ of the first-born more than it does the IQ of younger siblings, in order to produce a birth order difference,” he said.

How about niche partitioning? Sulloway seems to like this theory:

A theory that Sulloway likes is called “niche partitioning.” This theory suggests that once a role in the family is filled, others have to find roles that help them compete for attention in the family.

Sulloway noted that first-borns are judged to be more disciplined and more hard-working and more intelligent than their younger siblings. “The explanation for this is that first-borns occupy the role of a surrogate parent in the family,” he said. “It is a great way to get brownie points from parents.”

Because older children already occupy that niche in the family, younger children have to find other roles to play, Sulloway said. “So, younger siblings look for other things to be good at,” he said. “It may be that that extra 2.3 points in IQ reflects an investment of time to get that, and the later-born is investing that time in something else and is getting 2.3 extra points in something else,” he added.

Given that each child is finding his or her own niche, the difference in IQ is nothing for parents to worry about, Sulloway said.

No matter what theory we go with, I wouldn’t necessarily put all of our eggs in one basket. Maybe the combination of all of these factors intertwined into which ones seem to weigh more heavily depending on situational factors will probably determine the overall outcome of a child. But either way, it doesn’t tell us the future of the child, just the predetermined capabilities of them.

sillydad

June Wedding Anniversary

Tuesday, June 26th, 2007

My wife and I just celebrated our 8 years of marriage. Though I was sick, hacking up phlegm, and sneezing all over the house, we managed to cook up some scallops wrapped in bacon. Makes a nice ordourve.

It was not only us who celebrated a wedding anniversary on the 21st of June. The only man, at the Only Man of the House blog celebrates 10 full years.

Here they were 10 years ago:

Congrats!

-sillydad

Think Outside the Q-cumber

Thursday, June 21st, 2007

It’s amazing how children think and formulate their thought patterns. It’s never something that struck me as fascinating until the day my wife and I started having kids. Kids are simple, but are really intuitive. They take complex things and can really simplify them for us. Though things seem chaotic at times, kids can really simplify your life and just make you stop and chuckle.

I have gotten to the point now that if I need a new slogan for my business or a website I am designing I will ask my kids and see what they come up with. It will surprise you. And who do you think would be better at thinking outside the box? Kids are less influenced by society than adults and can think more literally than us big people.

What really was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me and made me realize this fact was a few years ago when my oldest child and I were peeling a cucumber. She loves cucumbers and we ate cucumber after cucumber for a long time. Peel it up, slice it into circles on a large plate, and then sprinkle salt on them.

Well I was in the middle of peeling our cucumber for an afternoon snack when my daughter said, “Dad I don’t want a cucumber.” I was absolutely shocked as she had always loved them and actually were somewhat obsessed with eating them. What I didn’t realize at the time was she was setting me up. She was 4 years old at the time and I came back with, “Well too bad, this is what we are eating.” She persisted, “But Dad, I really don’t want a cucumber.”

I was so stunned by this. So I came back strongly, “Well too bad, you are eating a cucumber whether you like it or not. You have always liked cucumbers. There is no reason to stop liking them now.”

She then got this grin on her face and said, “But Dad (giggle), I don’t want a cucumber, I want a Y-cumber (giggle).”

I busted out laughing. That did it for me and I realized how kids are so simple and can really think outside the box. She was learning her letters and therefore the emphasis all along was on the letters. As an adult you begin to look past all that stuff. You begin to just accept things for what they are.

So if you need original ideas get your kids involved. It may surprise you. So think outside the Q-cumber and think more like a kid.

-sillydad

DADSTOCK – Sounds Like a Fun Event

Wednesday, June 20th, 2007

Are you interested in going?

Darth Daddy a stay at home dad is hosting a very first DADSTOCK event. It is considered a nationwide event and make sure to let him know if you want to attend. Details so far:

Saturday June 30, 2007
1:00 PM to ??:?? (Since a few will be travelling longer distances you are welcome EARLY or LATE…)
Where – My House… PM me for Address and info.

“Dad’s Beer Party” – Everyone brings some interesting beer (Lets try to avoid bringing the same thing. No Miller Lite/Bud/Old Milwaukee…)

Food – I will Grill up Burgers and have all the fixings. Everyoune bring a Snack/Side

Dads Attending…

1. Darth-Daddy (Host) – Bringing Costco Burgers and Beer from Trader Joe’s
2. Cubfan – Quality Suds and either Guac or Smoked Meat…
3. cjbart – Taco Ring, Guac?
4. mopar-daddy: Chips and Home Made Salsa…
5. woodchuck: Bringing Some Firewood, A bean/beef/chili sort of dish..Possible Berry Dish
6. Trevor57 – Fruit Salad..Yummy yummy..
7. Steve (From a local SAHD meetup board) dvldg1109 New Member on Forum…
8. Jeffus Pony Boy is COMING!!!!!!
9. Indy Driving Up With Sao
10. Sao Carpooling with Indy
11. Wils Dad? Thinking about following Pony Boy…

Post what you want to bring and I will EDIT this post to add that information.

This should be a BLAST!!!

-sillydad